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Babywearing Celebration Day 6: Crafty

Babywearing Love, by Kendra Ortner

we were fortunate enough to have a friend gift us a moby wrap. i think this really helped us enjoy babywearing from the beginning. we practiced before our baby came, but with our newborn, some days we just couldn't get it. (the learning curve was steep on many accounts in those early days!) i wanted a pocket sling, so i could meet our baby's needs faster when i just couldn't seem to get the moby working. so my husband made one.

 

and another one. and yes. you read that right. my husband. he bought the fabric, he found directions online, he sized the slings to our bodies, he sewed. he did it all.

 

i attended a local babywearing group and was introduced to all different types of carries. the leader was a devout wrapper, and her enthusiasm was catching. the wrap could go anywhere, do anything. and what's more, i learned, the woven wrap's diagonal stretch lends better support to the wearer and the baby than my moby could, especially considering how heavy my boy was getting. i had also begun facing him out, according to moby directions, which the leader told me could be stressful to his pelvic bones and his senses. on the front - facing in, on the back - facing in, and on the hip are the most psychologically advantageous ways of wearing (on the hip being the best for older babies), because the baby can hide if s/he wants, and interact if s/he wants. plus, our leader said she didn't feel the moby was safe for back carries with it's stretchiness. i was so impressed. this extraordinary mama helped me with my homemade slings (which she also checked for safety), and even magically wrapped my boy on my shoulder (the only place he cared for), which i was never able to replicate. now i wanted a woven wrap! since we didn't own a stroller, nor intend to, we splurged on the most inexpensive one we could find. 

again, there was some learning, especially as we began back carries, but i kept attending the group. watching other mamas really helped, and luckily for all of us, many have shared videos online too. i even got to try other carriers, and plotted to sew (or get my husband to sew) a mei tai some day. as babies do, our son grew and grew, and he was becoming too big to comfortably carry on our chest. when we switched to primarily back carries, i pined for a shorter wrap that wouldn't drag on the ground. not in our budget... soooo, you know what?

 

 

he made one.

 

as an anniversary gift, my husband presented me with this gorgeous fabric he had bought to make a new wrap. he talked to the shop owner to find out which materials were woven, and they tested to find one with the same diagonal stretch as our wrap. a gift of pure love - my heart swelled.

these days, this wrap is so nice because i can take this little strip of fabric with me when we are out on our journeys. if my boy, who is now two, wants to be held, i can get a little help from a quick sling tie and hip carry. or if we are really truckin', i can wrap him on my back. we use it on hikes, in the kitchen - we've even used it for family bike rides!

 

learning to wrap has been so empowering. it has given us security, intimacy, peace, and real connectedness. i just love it. and i feel incredibly lucky to have such a caring and crafty partner, whose support in this has over-exceeded my wildest expectations. spread the love, wear your baby!

DIY Revolution

Sure, I deeply adore(d) my Over the Shoulder Baby Holder, my Ergo, and my Moby. But truth be told, Kelley from Kozy nailed it when she said, "...all a new mom really needs is a set of lactating boobs and a good sling (...though even a bedsheet will work in a pinch)." (I've worn Lupine in a bedsheet on more than one occasion.) And I've made some rockin' carriers too and seen some wonderful ones made by other mamas (and papas like Marc in the story at top).

Our ancestors made their own. Now its your turn. Here are three great resources if you're up for the challenge:

If you are ready to get sewing, one of my favorite place for all-things baby is Sleeping Baby. I've sewn several of Jan's free patterns with ease. There is even a crochet sling, several mei tais, and a no-sew fabric sling on her site. The mama made set donated today is from one of Jan's patterns.

Another priceless resource (for both holds and carrier making instructions) is Mamatoto. My experience was that navigating their site took some patience at first, but once I found my way around I spent hours there - and found some amazing tricks to tuck up my sleeve.

While not a sewing resource, I need to also mention another great resource for connecting with other babywearing families and troubleshooting, asking questions, choosing a carrier, etc. Check out the Babywearer.

 The Giveaways

Today one winner will receive a gorgeous mama made ring sling (and matching toddler doll sling), generously made and donated by my friend Denise. A second mama will receive a one year subscription to Mothering Magazine, and a third winner will receive a digital copy of Babywearing 101.

But wait! There's more! (Said in my best infomercial voice.) We have a wonderful last-minute donation from Sling Rings: not one, not two, but three winners will receive sling rings to make their own safe, comfortable, affordable baby carrier.

Each ring set includes a pair of large rings for an actual babywearing sling and a pair of small rings for a toddler doll sling. (If you aren't up for making a doll sling, simply tie some ribbon to each ring and give them to your toddler. A wonderful and simple open-ended toy.)

Sling Rings was founded nine years ago when owner Rochelle, a new mother, noticed that there weren't supplies available for DIY sling making. She and her husband set to work to create strong, safe rings. Today they supply most of the major baby carrier companies with their sling rings and sell online for the DIY crafter. They offer rings in both anodized aluminum or plastic in a rainbow of colors to match your favorite fabrics. And every ring is safety tested. The rings are extremely affordable. 

Sling Rings is giving all Clean readers 12% off through the end of June. Enter coupon code Celebr8 during checkout!

To be entered in today's giveaway please leave a post with one thing you are thankful for at the end of this babywearing week. (Today is your last chance to add your name to the other posts from the week. You may enter once per day to be entered in each day's giveaway.)

Comments are closed. I'll announce winners later this week!

I will close all comments tonight at midnight CST. I'll announce winners as soon as I am able to next week, so keep checking back.

And me?

I'm thankful that you all showed up this week, day after day to hear (and share) these inspiring stories. I have an inbox full of stories I wasn't able to share, so if anyone has any ideas how I can post them, do let me know. When I announce the winners for the zillions of giveaways we did this week we'll have one last baby-fest with a haiku collection.

I'm so inspired by each of you.Thank you for all that you shared.

Since my blog readership has tripled in the past week (!), I wanted to take a minute to introduce myself to those of you who are new and to throw a coupon code of my own into the giveaway mix. I am Rachel Wolf, mama of Sage (7 1/2) and Lupine (3 1/4). Lupine + Sage = LuSa (Organics), my organic body and baby care business. We are a work-at-home unschooling family based in Wisconsin.

So why the babywearing week? I think my mom would say it's because I'm idealistic, but I would say I'm just extremely passionate. I feel the choices that I make in this life deeply, and my decision to babywear (and nurse, and cosleep, and practice EC, and homeschool, and...) was one based out of love and gentleness and best-possible-outcome-for-all-peole-involved.

I wanted to share this week with you because I believe that babywearing is magical - as long as we keep it in the hands of the mamas, papas, and small businesses out there with baby love in their hearts. As I reflected on each interview I posted this week, I realized that without exception they all talked about their inspiration: their babies.

It was the same for me. My bestselling products (booty balm, baby wipe juice, and soap) were born out of my love for my baby and a desire for something better.

I hope that this week inspired you towards something better as well.

With my deepest thanks, I am offering you all a coupon to LuSa Organics for $10 off any order over $45. Use coupon code "babylove" before the end of April.

And check back with me on Clean, won't you? While it won't be a babyfest over here again, it will continue to be a lovely place to come and be inspired.

Peace and love,

Rachel

Babywearing Celebration Day 5: In My Wrap's Embrace

Babywearing Wrap Rap by Casey Umhoefer (To the tune of Gangsta's Paradise)

I take a look at my kids, and realize they need a wrap!

Cause they've been fussin' and yawnin so long that
Even their mama thinks that wrap time has come.
 
But I ain't never wrapped a kid that didn't just love it
Baby left to cry alone, you know that's unheard of
You better wrap up your babies, while the time lasts
For you know that kids all grow up too fast
I really love to gaze at my baby's face
As they grow I see them happy, in my wrap's embrace.
I'm the kinda lady little kiddies wanna be with
 
In my wrap in the night
Lullabies in the dim light

 

Been spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Been spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Keep spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Keep spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
 
So here's the situation, they got me facin'
I can't live a stroller life, I want my hands to be free
So I gotta be down with the wrap team
Too much time on TheBabyWearer got me chasin' dreams
I'm an educated mom with wraps on my mind
Got health studies in my hand and a gleam in my eye
I'm an attached mama, keepin' my kids from danger
And my babies are happy, so don't arouse my anger, fool
My baby ain't nuthin but a heart beat away
I'm livin life as a mama, what can I say?
I've done my research, studied but is wearing best for babies?
The way that they're smilin' I just know

 

I'll tell you how to be, a kind mom, AP

The ones you love, should be wrapped, you see.
 
Been spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Been spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Keep spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Keep spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise

Didymos and Storchenwiege, Neobulle and Elleville
Natibaby, Lana, Hoppediz, oh mama!
Every wrap is different, but half of them ain't for me
Which one should I choose, guess I'll have to try three...
They say I got ta learn, but nobody's here to teach me,
Videos on YouTube, forums online can reach me!
Front Wrap Cross Carry; the Double Hammock

Take action shots; that's the only way to get a good critique, fool...

Been spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Been spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Keep spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise
Keep spending most our lives living in a Wrapper's Paradise

I'll tell you how to be, a kind mom, AP
The ones you love, should be worn, you see.

Baby Steps for our Babies

There were loads of comments about the double-babywearers yesterday! Okay, okay. I was one of them (in the flowered hat) and it was a one-time deal with my and my friends' one year olds. (With kids nearly 4 1/2 years apart, there's not much need for double wraps in my house!) The other mama with the green sling (and Casey, shown above) are legitimate frequent double-baby wearers. Rad.

Seeing mamas like these inspires me to take my own babysteps towards my mama goals. For me that's more effective gentle parenting (NVC). For you it might be mastering your wrap or sling for the first time. 

 

Many thanks to all of you who have been sharing links on your blogs, facebook pages, and twitter. We're causing a stir! So many inspired parents, so much positive energy around wearing our little ones. People seem positively encouraged.

I just had to share this one beautiful example of the power of your comments, photos and essays. On Monday Lisa H. Said:

Before my son was born (3 months ago, yesterday) I was sure that I would wear him everywhere. No baby would change my normal schedule. Ha! Silly me. The first 2 months we struggled with a breastfeeding issue (which I successfully conquered!) and I just can't seem to get the hang of the couple slings we were given (one of them being the recalled one, yikes!). My husband uses a homemade ring sling with much success, but it doesn't seem to be for me...I so want to have a beautiful picture with my little Fritz like the ones you have on your site!

On Wednesday Lisa said:

I want to be a Super Mama! And give my tired arms a break from 3 months of holding. This week's blog has inspired me to find a better sling and start my babywearing adventure!

And her comment yesterday:

Success! After following this babywearing week blog, I started to feel a little braver. My husband and I went to the Wildlife Sanctuary a little bit ago and he (the ring sling pro) helped me get it on and adjusted, and then loaded little Fritz in. He didn't scream! And then he fell asleep!I have never enjoyed a walk more. And then it started raining, nothing better than a walk in a warm rain! I just put the sling's tail over baby's head, and he never even woke up. Not sure the ring sling is for me, but it was still incredible! Oh, and did I mention the sun came out at the end and there was a rainbow? Perfect!!!

 How awesome is that!? I am smiling from ear to ear, Lisa. Congratulations, Super Mama! 

 

 

The Giveaways

Today is a pretty fabulous giveaway day as well. We have a Gypsy Mama Wrapsody Water Wrap, a gorgeous Didymos, and the final copy of Tummy 2 Tummy. We'll have one more round of giveaways tomorrow, so be sure to pop by to see what's in store (including a subscription to Mothering Magazine and a mama/toddler sling set, generously made and donated by a friend (thanks, D!) .

If you haven't already done so, leave a comment on the previous day's posts! (You can enter once every day, so if you've missed our first givewaways the comments are still open.) All will close on Saturday at midnight, CST. To be entered, simply leave a comment here.

Comments are closed. I'll announce winners later this week!

Didymos Interview

I've been enamored with Didymos wraps since Sage was a baby. They are the top of the line woven wrap on the market by many standards. However I never made the investment in one of these arguably wonderful wraps. Two babies later, I wish that I had. Now I have the knowledge (and confidence) to know that a few yards of fabric can't beat me - but rather, can free me.

1. What is your company and how long have you been in business?

Didymos: I started with DIDYMOS in 1972, shortly after my twins Tina and Lisa were born. I was completely unfamiliar with baby wearing and it took almost 20 years to really establish this original way of babycare in Europe.

 

Clean: What makes your carrier one of the best?

Didymos: I have never made any compromises with respect to quality and have always striven to find ecological ways of manufacturing and ecological sources. That is why we put emphasis in manufacturing exclusively in Germany or neighboring countries. We think it is important to point out that it was DIDYMOS to introduce the typical baby wrap fabric which is elastic in diagonal but firm in straight direction. Moreover, we were the first to develop and introduce the sizing and shape (tapered ends) which are used for almost all baby wraps nowadays.

Clean: Why do you believe caregivers wear their babies?

Didymos: It is the most natural way of transporting and caring for a baby. Being always close to your body, your baby feels safe and secure and helps him/her to develop a deep confidence of being welcome, accepted and looked after.

Clean: Any Babywearing tips for beginners?

Didymos: Do not put too much pressure on you by trying to be perfect. It takes some exercise and practice, but every time you wear your baby, you will become more confident. Soon, baby wearing will be as easy as putting on a nappy, which sometimes,in the beginning, seemed to be a challenge, too.

 

Gypsy Mama Interview

My parenting style is pretty hands on. If my kids are distressed at something I am about to do (go to the coop by myself, take a shower, go get the mail all alone) I rarely do it. I'll take them along. Because of that I mastered the showering-with-baby thing when Sage was little. I also enjoyed taking my babes into the water (lake, pool, or river) when they were small. But hands free? That sounds like a dream. And safer, too. Gypsy Mama's Wrapsody Water Wrap sounds dreamy for mamas like me...

Clean: What is your company and how long have you been in business?

Gypsy Mama: I founded Gypsy Mama in 2004 with the goal of providing affordable gauze wraps to every family -- I loved the ease and lightness of them.  When I separated from my husband a year later, I realized that if I could grow the company fast enough, I might still be able to stay at home with my little ones -- and things worked out beautifully!  I have added several products during my 6 years in business, but the ones that stayed (and I personally love and use) are the Breeze Wrap, which is made from sturdy cotton gauze, the Water Wrap, which is a really unique product in our market -- it wears like a supportive bathing suit for taking babies wading and in the shower, and the Stretch Wrap, which met my goal of  creating a wrap with all the benefits of stretch fabric but without losing the versatility woven wraps provide.

My commitment to uncompromised quality, a strong commitment to fair trade practices, and Gypsy Mama's ability to find unmet needs in the market that really set my carriers apart from others.

Clean: Why do you believe caregivers should wear their babies?

Gypsy Mama: I was initially drawn to babywearing after reading an article in 1999 linking sling use to higher IQ -- that article led me to the "babywearing lifestyle," where many parents find convenience melts into attachment theory and instinctive parenting, and babywearing becomes as integral to parenting as sleep.

Clean: Any babywearing tips for beginners?

Gypsy Mama: Always be aware of your baby.  Listed to his or her cues, never cover her face, and be patient with yourself.  Like all aspects of parenting, babywearing takes time and practice.  If you or your baby don't quite get the hang of it at first, try again -- and if possible, seek out someone with experience who can help you choose the right carrier for your needs and who can show you some tricks for using your carrier that may really make it work in a new way.

Clean: What else should we know about your company or babywearing in general?

Gypsy Mama: I really think babywearing is a keystone in facilitating healthy parents and children.  It solves so many problems and has so many benefits that I think soft carriers are as crucial to raising children as diapers or blankets.  Physically, psychologically, neurobiologically .... the benefits to both baby and caregiver cannot be understated.  I think parents should remember that they are babywearing experts and should not be shy about sharing the information they have with others who can benefit.

Gypsy Mama his offering $5 off any purchase over $50 through the end of April from their web store. Use coupon code LO2010. 

 

Babywearing Celebration Day 4: Together as a Family

   

 

Before we dive in on this beautiful day of babywearing I wanted to remind you all that you can make one comment per post. That means that you can also comment on the posts from earlier in the week to be entered there as well. Six chances to win something groovy!

Comments on all posts will close on Saturday at Midnight CST. Happy babywearing!

Togetherness by Marguerite Moon

When I carry my daughter around with me we do things together. Whether we are making dinner, washing diapers, exploring a mossy tree, helping build a greenhouse watching some auto repair, walking the dog, dancing, carrying firewood we are together both experiencing these activities. She is gaining an understanding of the world of work and play in our lives.

I feel a connection with women of Africa and Asia who do not have the luxury of putting their working lives on hold while they are pregnant and have a baby. Who need to bring their babe with them where ever they go and whatever they do. These women carry their babes to keep them close and safe from harm while they take care of their lives.

I choose and need to live in a similar way; to carry my child so we can be together as a family safely. When she is in her carrier I can actively take part in our off the grid independent life.  I have no worries when she sleeps in her carrier I simply pause for a moment and feel her belly breathing into my back then continue with my work. She awakens calmly knowing I am still with her. Her father takes a moment to smile at her and ask how her nap was. Then we continue working together, babe on my back watching.

Find Your Mentor

We've talked a great deal about quality carriers this week. But something that keeps coming up is this: find a mentor. Find someone who is more experienced (or more laid back) than you and get some babywearing help. There was a time in our collective history that we as women were surrounded by a community who supported us through our transition into motherhood. We birthed with them, had their support as we learned to nurse, they held our babies so we could bathe, eat, rest. And they taught us how to wear our children.

While most of us no longer live within such a vital, supportive community or tribe, we can still find those kindred spirits to help guide our journey. Mentors may be found through a local La Leche League group, a Babywearing group, a new mama group, or a retail store. I once recommend to an isolated urban friend to "stalk the babywearing mamas" she saw around her city.

The Giveaways

Today is our big day - three carriers plus a babywearing DVD. One winner will receive an ERGObaby carrier. A second winner will receive a Kozy Carrier Mei Tai. A third winner will receive a Catbird Baby Mei Tai from Happy Bambino. And finally, our fourth winner will receive a copy of the Tummy 2 Tummy babywearing DVD. (Whew!)

Thanks to all donors for making this such an incredible week. To be entered in today's drawing, leave a comment on today's post. Include a benefit (or challenge) you see in finding your community as a parent.

Remember - you can enter once per day all week long to increase your odds at winning the carrier of your (and your baby's) dreams!

Comments are closed. I'll announce winners later this week!

Happy Bambino Interview

Because they sell my organic baby care products in their retail store, I've been working with the women of Happy Bambino since they opened 5 1/2 years ago. I've seen first hand the positive impact their resource center has on parents in their Madison, Wisconsin community. Each time my farmer's market conversation turns to the ups and downs of nursing, cosleeping, or babywearing I find myself drawing them a map to Happy Bambino. Thanks, Happy Bambino for the Catbird Baby Mei Tai donation!

Clean: What makes your store one of the best?

Happy Bambino: We research every carrier we sell and we work with parents daily to offer in-depth support of baby carriers.  We are using the carriers with customers and with our own children.   We also teach classes on babywearing & baby-soothing for more in-depth information.

Clean: Any babywearing tips for beginners?

Happy Bambion: Being confident yourself with a carrier is crucial to getting the baby to feel comfortable and happy in it.  So pick a high-quality  easy to use carrier as your first carrier.  Make sure you can get help if you need it from someone who is competent with that carrier.

Clean: What else should we know about your company or babywearing in general?

Happy Bambino: Check out our babywearing page for tips, videos, and a history of babywearing:  www.happybambino.com/babywearing

ERGObaby Interview

You've heard me extol the virtues of the Over the Shoulder Baby Holder. You've heard me gush over the Moby Wrap. The Ergo is my third and final non-negotiable baby carrier.

Lupine is 3 1/2 and just today we were on a wild edible hike. On the steep hills she climbed up into the Ergo when she (or I) was worried she might take a tumble. It is still comfortable, still calming for her, and still holding up beautifully. Even now (with my last baby already 3 1/2 years old) if I lost my Ergo I think I'd buy another one. It's that worth it.

 Clean: What makes your carrier one of the best?

Ergo: The ERGObaby Carrier’s ergonomic design supports your baby’s natural seated position, eliminating compression of his/her hips and spine.  The carefully researched design also supports your posture by distributing your baby’s weight between your shoulders and hips, thus allowing you to comfortably carry your baby for hours at a time. Additionally, it can be worn on the front, back, and hip position, making it one of the most versatile carriers on the market. Finally, since you can carry babies from newborn (with the Infant Insert) to 40 lbs, it is truly the only baby carrier you will ever need!

Clean: Why do you believe caregives should wear their babies?

Ergo: Babies love to be close to their parents, and Babywearing enables busy parents to continue with their daily lives while supporting their baby in a natural, comfortable, and safe way.

Clean: Any babywearing tips for beginners?

Ergo: Don’t wait until baby is crying to pick her up – when you are around the house, put her in the carrier while you do chores. Go for a walk with baby. Let baby rock to sleep with the familiar rhythm of your body. Let Babywearing simplify your life.

Kozy Carrier Interview

I'm familair with the Kozy Carrier from several friends who've enjoyed their immensely. But I didn't anticipate how much I would enjoy my interview with founder and owner Kelley. She's my kind of mama. I love that her interview is not so much talking up her own product as talking up babywearing in general.

I've tried to edit down all of the interview to just a few brief paragraphs. Her's breaks the mold (and is totally worth the read.)

Thanks so much, Kelley for your thoughtful words.

 

 

Clean: What makes your carrier one of the best?

Kozy: There are so many great carriers out there, way more than there were when I started babywearing back in 2000, and more than there were when I designed the Kozy in 2002.  So Kozy is just one in a large 'stash' of wonderful carriers!

The Kozy was the first "modern" mei tai to have padded straps, a padded curved top, and a pocket. It has often been referred to as the "Gold Standard" of mei tais. I think the beauty is in it's simplicity.  No buckles, no added gadgets, no clasps or elastic or frills or loop or cinches.  We keep it simple, easy to use and versatile.  The large body means that it fits the smallest baby to the largest toddler.  The fabric is flexible so it can be manipulated, the wide base can be scrunched together to allow a little baby to ride with legs out, yet it is wide enough to support the long legs of an older child.  It is tall to provide head support to a sleeping baby yet you can fold it to make it shorter if needed. Of course the overall mei tai design makes it very user friendly for all body types and sizes. 

(Photo above borrowed from the Kozy Carrier website... because I couldn't resist the "mochi dolls", as Lupine says.)
 

 

 

Clean: Why do you believe caregivers wear their babies?

Kozy: I think a lot of moms wear their babies because it is just easier to meet their needs that way and get things done at the same time, especially if you have a baby (like all 5 of mine) who doesn't like to be put down.  We have busy lives and when you have a baby that needs to be carried 24/7 and other children or other work that needs to be done then wearing them is the perfect solution.  We know our babies need to be kept close, and even if my babies weren't as high needs, I would still wear them.  They become bonded to us and when we wear them on our bodies there is better communication and we can meet their needs easier. Of course I wear them too because I think it is the most natural way to care for them.  It is also wonderful for breastfeeding.  I babywear constantly, in fact, I have 5 kids and we don't even own a stroller.

 

Clean: Any babywearing tips for beginners?

Kozy: Babywearing is an art and for some it comes naturally and they and their babies just "get it" but for others it takes some time and practice to get the techniques down and that is OK. It is perfectly  normal.  Some babies don't take to new things well and if we are anxious about them then they pick up on that.  It is best to start when your baby is happy and fed and for us to start with carries that we are comfortable with and to have a spotter or whatever we need to make us feel more confidant.  It is OK if baby fusses a little when you are putting them on, it is normal for them to protest new things.  Once they are on and secure and mom starts moving and talking to them (a walk outside helps a ton) then they usually settle right down and enjoy the ride, and usually end up loving being worn.  Customers often e-mail us asking what we sprinkle on the Kozy that makes their babies fall asleep so easily in them.  I know it is because the baby is comfortable and feels comfy and secure on mom . . . what better environment for restful sleep.

Some babies prefer one type of carrier or one carry over another, so being able to try different carriers or ways to carry them helps. And just because one carrier doesn't work well for you or your baby doesn't mean another won't.  

There are SO many wonderful carriers out there, and just because one person can't get a particular type of carrier to work for them does not mean it won't work well for you.  I highly recommend searching to see if you can find a local babywearing group or store where you can go and try several different types of carriers as well as getting help from people who know what they are doing if you have any wearing questions.  And if you buy a carrier and you and your baby are having issues getting it to work for you ALWAYS contact the manufacturer to get help!!  Most of the issues people have had with the Kozy are simple things that I could have helped with if only I was contacted and able to troubleshoot with them. 

Clean: What else should we know about your company or babywearing in general?

Kozy: Babywearing is in my opinion one of the most important tools of mothering.  I say all a new mom really needs is a set of lactating boobs and a good sling (or 3, LOL, though even a bedsheet will work in a pinch).  There is no better way to ensure your baby's safety than to have them close to your body.  If you are using a good sling (it should mimick your arms, how you would hold your baby) and using it properly, then babywearing is absolutely safe.

Some people view babywearing as some 'hippy trend' or something.  But that is an unfortunate cultural view in some areas (thankfully not all).  In other cultures babywearing is seen as the norm, perhaps one day we will get to that point as well.  But for now, it matters little to me what others think about it.  I care more about what I feel is best for my baby, and if people look at me like I have 2 heads then so be it!  The more people see babywearing the more acceptable it will become . . . so I encourage others to join with me in wearing their babies if they too feel it is best, sharing the positives aspects of babywearing with others, and helping to make babywearing more acceptable in our society!

Kozy Carrier is offering free shipping on any US orders during the month of April ($12 off shipping for international orders). Mention in the comments field of your order that you heard about them on Clean and your shipping fees will be refunded!

 

 

  

Babywearing Celebration Day 3: Your Secret Weapon

A Supermom's Super Secret, by Kristi Dalberg

Yes, I am supermom but shh...I have a secret.  I'm only confessing this so other moms can become the supermom they need to be for their families. 

From the beginning of my supermom days, Hudson has always desired my complete and total attention.  Being a mommy, you know there is a connection between mommy and baby...a confidence, a need for comfort. 

For the first several weeks after Hudson was born, all I wanted to do was cuddle my newborn...and I did.  But eventually, I had to start getting stuff done, also.  Dishes were piling up, and we had no clean clothes.  Our house was officially a disaster zone.  I felt so overwhelmed and I just wanted to go hide away in the nursery with my newborn. 

That's when supermom was born.  I had to figure out how to get things done.  Whenever I'd lay Hudson down, he'd cry and I'd feel like a bad mommy because I wanted to be there to soothe him and cuddle him.  After all, he had been inside of me for nine months and was used to that.  I needed to show him that being in the world was no different - I'd still always be there for him to care for his needs. 

So...I came up with my secret weapon - baby-wearing.  My mom gave me a baby carrier so I strapped it on and...never took it off!  Hudson cuddled to me, slept on me, fed, and played while I did dishes, laundry, errands, etc.  Yes, baby-wearing allowed me to be the supermom I always dreamed of being! 

We both absolutely loved it!  I felt I could still be his sweet mommy caring for his every need yet still be the amazing wife (and house-keeper) my husband needed me to be.

 

 

 

 

 

 The Giveaways

We are again indulging in a three-giveaway day. One lucky winner will receive Baby K'tan double sling. A second winner will receive a Kangaroo Korner fleece pouch. And a third winner will receive the babywearing DVD Tummy2Tummy , as described on Monday.

To be entered in the drawing please leave a comment below. I'd love to hear your thoughts on babywearing, something that inspired you to wear your baby, or a hope you hold in your heart. (One comment per person per post, please.)

Comments are closed. I'll announce winners later this week!

Feel free to ask questions. I'll respond to just as many as I can. If you missed the posts from earlier this week feel free to read and leave a comment there as well.

To let more families know about this week's events, I encourage you to re-blog, post to your Facebook page, and share on Twitter. Thanks for spreading the word! I will close comments on Saturday, April 17 and announce all winners the following week.

Baby K'tan Interview

I interviewed the enthusiastic, joyful people at Baby K'tan earlier this week. Because the Baby K'tan Baby Carrier came into existence after my last baby was born, I do not have personal experience with this carrier. If any readers have one and would like to post their experiences in the comments that would be wonderful!

Here is what Baby K'tan had to say:

Clean: What makes your carrier one of the best?

 Baby K'tan:The Baby K'tan Baby Carrier first launched in April 2007 as a new, innovative carrier that is a cross between a sling and a more structured front carrier, providing the positions and benefits of both.

In a Baby K'tan parents and caregivers can comfortably carry infants and toddlers, from preemie to preschool (up to 42 pounds) in eight different positions. It has added security and back support compared to a traditional sling, and added comfort and ease of use compared with a traditional carrier.

The Baby K'tan has no buckles, snaps, rings, or hardware that might otherwise complicate your babywearing experience and is made with a double loop design and an adjustable back support band for distributing weight across both shoulders.

Clean: Why do you believe caregivers wear their babies?

By being so close to your body's rhythms, the newborn "gets in rhythm" much more quickly. Research has shown how this helps babies to adapt to life outside the womb. Babywearing is also good for babies whose caregivers are overwhelmed. Babies who are not held need more verbal interaction and eye contact, just to be reassured that you're there. Carrying a baby is a great way to connect with him or her (and provide stimulation too) without the constant necessity of having to interact.

It is also good for baby's mental development. Babies spend more time in a "quiet, alert state" when carried - the ideal state for learning. Their senses are stimulated while being carried (yet there is a place to retreat too). Studies indicate that 'worn' babies have improved visual and auditory alertness relative to children that are frequently left on the floor or in a crib or playpen.

Other studies indicate that carried babies have improved speech development since they are more directly exposed to normal adult conversation rather than 'child directed speech'. Babywearing is also good for baby's emotional development. Babies are able to quickly develop a sense of security and trust when they are carried. They are more likely to be securely attached to their care-giver/s and often become independent at an earlier age.

Baby K'tan is offering 10% off to all Clean readers until May 1. Use coupon code "LUSAKTAN".

 

Kangaroo Korner Interview

The fleece pouch is another carrier that I have not had the pleasure to use. Below is my interview with the owner of Kangaroo Korner. I especially love what she said regarding tips for beginners.

Clean: What makes your carrier one of the best?

Our Kangaroo Korner Adjustable Pouches are snug yet not constricting so you are easily able to wear your child and have two hands free to accomplish almost any task. Unlike non-adjustable pouches, our Adjustable Pouches are designed to grow with your baby and will accommodate your changing size due to a pregnancy. Each pouch has 4 rows of adjustment - for one low price, you are essentially receiving 4 pouches in 1! 

Clean: Why do you believe caregivers wear their babies?

Less crying, fussiness & frustration. Less boredom. Protection from overstimulation. Encourages a healthy dependency. Less clingy as baby gets older. Benefits special needs babies. Counteracts sibling rivalry. Promotes bonding. Better for baby's back and legs. Allows for richer stimulation. Improves motor skills and muscle tone. Easier on baby's digestive system. Breastfeeding friendly. Gentle on parent's back. 

Clean: Any babywearing tips for beginners?

Move. While eventually you will be able to putter around the house with your baby in the sling, at first your baby needs the steady rhythm of your walking. As soon as you slip your baby into the sling, start walking! Pacing in the living room is OK, walking outside or at a shopping mall is even better. The new environment will distract your baby, allowing him or her to become used to the snugness of the sling. Next to finding a comfortable position, this is probably the single most important factor in successful babywearing! 

Clean: What else should we know about your company or babywearing in general?

We are a locally owned and operated company. All of our products are manufactured in Minnesota where our employees are all paid a living wage. In addition, we have donated hundreds of Adjustable Pouches to Family Medical Center in inner-city Minneapolis, a clinic that serves low-income families.

Kangaroo Korner is offering Clean readers 25% off of any purchase of Kangaroo Korner brand items during the month of April. Please use coupon code "April25%".

Babywearing Celebration Day 2: Finding your Mama Groove (or Papa Groove).

 

Finding your groove as a new parent is not always easy. Everything is new. The learning curve is painfully steep. And the challenges keep coming. Babywearing might feel like one more wrench thrown into your day if you are a parent who just can't seem to get it.

Today I want to speak to those parents who found babywearing to anything but easy. I'm grateful to Cassandara for the raw honesty of her submission below:

I really want to have one of those touching stories you are seeking. But...

  

They cry. They always cry. I put them in the carrier and they squirm, scream and fight. I have had 3 babies and they have all acted the same way. At the farmer’s market I watch with envy the other mommies wearing their cozy, sleeping babies. Their hands are free as they shop, snack, knit, etc. Not me, as you can see from my pictures, I got to walk around the Field Museum in Chicago with a miserable 2 month old. Maybe it’s the carrier, or the angle, or me? I don’t know.

 

  

What kind of earthy mama am I if I can’t wear my baby? This is the question I ask myself every time I strap a baby to my chest. I am crafty and on-the-go and wearing my baby would be perfect.  I really, really want to!

 

Out of frustration I am driven to haiku…  

My heavy baby

Mommy needs her arms today

Don’t scream your head off

My heart goes out to Cassandra. I've been there. I've uttered the words "My baby hates baby carriers." And "Oh, no thanks. I don't use the carrier. It sucks." And "Look what I got done today with no hands!" (motioning towards piles of dirty dishes, crusty spit-up soaked towels, dirty diapers, and unfolded laundry).

I was a babywearing drop out. Like Cassandra, I had learned to loathe my carrier.

My story starts at the thrift store: I am extremely frugal and try to buy nearly everything second hand. When I was pregnant with Sage I purchased several used carriers (a front pack similar to the one above, a homemade front pack, a sling and an awkward backpacks). They seemed good enough at first glance: sturdy, a bit of padding, a reasonable price, and someplace to tuck my baby. (My extremely sensitive, particular, and communicative baby.)

The cheap carriers sucked and he let me know in no uncertain terms. He felt the same way about the stroller, so in arms he was (as I pushed the empty stroller back home with my knees). I essentially gave up on both babywearing and baby buggies within the first three weeks of Sage's life.

Enter the Sling-Wearing-Goddess-Friend into my life. Her (extremely sensitive, particular, and communicative) baby was happy as can be in their sling. Every time I saw them. No screaming. No arching. No shaking of wee fists in the air.

She suggested I give it another shot. "He's too old," I told her. (He was then a mature 5 months old. The same kid who now at 7 1/2 years still longs for the sling. Oh, the irony.) She wore me down and I agreed to give it another go.

Sage (age 1) and I in our sling

She hooked me up with an Over the Shoulder Baby Holder to try out and I was nothing short of amazed. He didn't scream. I didn't scream. So I bought one - brand new - on the spot. It was the best $50 I spent on that boy. We wore it daily until Sage was four and Lupine was born. Then Sage relinquished it to his baby sister. When we wore it out we purchased another Over the Shoulder (ironically at a thrift store.)

Since then we've had or made close to a dozen other carriers, but if you ask me which one owns my heart it's my sling. My dirty, tattered, threadbare, memory woven, badge of motherhood sling.

 But I digress.

The upshot is that be successful in wearing my baby I needed two things three things:

1. A mentor. Without the Sling Mama I never would have given carriers a second chance. (Love you, P.!)

2. A quality carrier. One that did not torture my baby by hanging him by his crotch (like many front packs do) or jam him into uncomfortable and unsafe contortions.

3. Confidence. (This one I added as an afterthought, but was key for me. I am sensitive, and my kids are sensitive. When I worried that they would hate it, they did. But when I knew it would be brilliant it was.)

Cassandra, I hope that helps a bit. Ditch your old carrier. (Some people swear by that type, but others say they hold the baby's pelvis in an awkward/unnatural position. For us it was a scream factory.) Invest in (or sew) an upgrade. Read some reviews, talk to other parents, try some on. Read the comments that parents leave here this week. I've already seen some great suggestions there. I hope you win one this week, mama. You've earned it!

The Giveaways

Onto the goodies. Today we are hosting three giveaways. One lucky winner will receive a padded ring sling from Over the Shoulder Baby Holder. I could talk for hours (and have) about the virtues of this particular sling. if you've been a close friend in the past 7 years and had a baby changes are if I didn't give you a Moby I gave you an Over the Shoulder when you were pregnant.

Another winner will receive the babywearing DVD Tummy2Tummy , as described yesterday.

A third winner will receive a digital copy of Mothering Magazine's Babywearing 101. (Also described in yesterday's post).

To be entered in the drawing please leave a comment below. I'd love to hear your thoughts on babywearing, something that inspired you to wear your baby, or a hope you hold in your heart. (One comment per person please.) Feel free to ask questions. I'll respond to just as many as I can. If you missed yesterday's post feel free to leave a comment there as well.

Comments are closed. I'll announce winners later this week!

To let more families know about this week's events, I encourage you to re-blog, post to your Facebook page, and share on Twitter. Thanks for spreading the word! I will close comments on Saturday, April 17 and announce all winners the following week.

Over the Shoulder Baby Holder

There are countless fancy, modern slings on the market. With great marketing and gorgeous fabrics and modern features. Sexy, sexy slings that you might just want to wear as an accessory, with our without the baby.

Over the Shoulder is not that sling. As opposed to sexy, they remind me a bit of myself in seventh grade. Not the prettiest girl in school (but lovely in her own right), a bit quiet, not the most popular but loved fiercely by those who have taken the time to connect, extremely hardworking, honest and easy to get along with. And one with strong ideals.

Underrated and wonderful, you might say.

We used our Over the Shoulder sling from the time Sage was six months old until he was 4. (And by then Lupine was occupying it.) Pete walked Sage to sleep in the woods behind our house in the sling every night. The first baby sign Sage made up was a sign for "sling". Sage even had a wee Over the Shoulder of his own for his babywearing adventures.

On the top shelf in my sewing room is what is left of our sweet baby sling after six years of constant use. I am making quilts for the kids. Each will contain a piece of the sling they were comforted and loved in for countless hours. That way they are always wrapped up in my mama love in that sling.

 

Below is my interview with Over the Shoulder Baby Holder. They are truly ethical, big-hearted, honest folks.

Clean: What is your company and how long have you been in business? 

OTSBH: We were the first company to manufacture baby slings back in 1987. Early on the Lord put on our hearts the desire to help children. We saw that all children responded to, blossomed, if you will, when they were nurtured in love.

  Clean: What makes your carrier one of the best? 

OTSBH: Our padded and adjustable sling allows the caregiver to exactly ‘mimic mom’s arms’. The padding supports the newborns head and torso so that they lie naturally rather than sagging into a ‘C’ shape, and we can see their face and check on their comfort. And being adjustable allows the caregiver to make the sling fit perfectly no matter if the baby grows, or if we change caregivers, or the baby changes positions.

Clean: Why do you believe caregivers wear their babies? 

With our first baby, my wife & I who were followers of Jean Liedloff’s Continuum Concept, determined to carry our babies every waking moment until they naturally weaned themselves from continual contact with us. This is not only convenient for the parent, but allows the baby to develop maximum security as they develop a sense that they are in control of their environment as they give cues to their responsive parent. This is in opposition to a baby who is left to fend for himself in a ‘away from parents body’ type of device (strollers, walkers, bouncers, etc.); these babies do not develop the same sense of security because they have no control over their environment--a device cannot respond to a baby’s cue.

Clean: Any tips for beginners?

OTSBH: Fool proof sling wearing:

1-Before putting your Over the Shoulder Baby Holder on, hold your baby in your arms in front of a mirror--note where the baby's head is in relation to your elbow, bustline, etc. Note where your baby’s bottom is.

2-Wait until your baby is sleeping and you are free to practice putting the sling off and on. Practice tightening and loosening the sling until you can do it with your eyes closed.

3-Again in front of a mirror, put on the sling, put a doll or teddy bear in the sling. Tighten & loosen as needed and position the doll exactly where you were holding your real baby--head near crook of arm, bustline, etc.  Remember, practice makes perfect, do it again! And again!

4-Now when you and your baby are in good moods, have plenty of time, etc. get in front of the mirror, put the sling on. Now put your baby in exactly the way you did the doll. Don’t be afraid to gently move your baby to where they need to be, then tighten. Voila! Happy baby, happy mom!

Clean: What else should we know about your company or babywearing in general?

OTSBH: Raising a baby in a sling naturally increases the bonding and attachment between baby and all people. Your child will grow to be attached to people, rather than things. Relationships are the only thing that make us joyful for our entire lives. When we are attached to peopel, love people, we do things for other people instead of thinking of our selves. When we have this kind of joy it is not conditional on some event making us happy - we have joy, even when undergoing the trials of life.

Feeling Like a Mama, Danielle Reiner

My last steps into mamahood came to me as a surprise. A pop and a splash, too early in the morning and too early in the pregnancy.

There was, of course, joy: joy at welcoming a new life into the world, at meeting my son. But there was also sadness, fear, and heartache. Being a mama to a preemie changed everything, my dreams and plans for becoming the mama I wanted to be. 

For the first two weeks of life, my access to my little one was restricted. I was restricted by the incubator; an unnatural barrier between us, mother and son, with only two holes for my hands to fit through. I was restricted by the noon to 8pm visiting hours. I was restricted by the doctors, the treatments, the tests, the tubes, the policies, everything. I went home without my babe in my arms and without my babe in my belly. It was, quite possibly, the hardest thing I've ever done.

In the care of his doctors, he improved. Slowly, piece-by-piece, equipment was removed, until my little one was there, breathing on his own, eating like a champ, and gaining weight like he should. Finally, he was released into our home and our care. Things should have been right, as they were meant to be, Mama and babe, together.

However, even though we were reunited, things were off. I had a hard time finding my groove as a mama. I struggled. He was only two weeks old and I felt as though I had missed so much. I wanted to catch up, to connect, to get to know my babe and have him get to know me. I wanted to hold him close and make up for lost time. 

This is where babywearing helped us find ourselves. Babywearing helped us be together. Babywearing helped us bond. Babywearing helped me connect to a babe that I, for a short time, was physically disconnected from. More than anything, babywearing helped me feel like a mama, while I learned about my little one.

I felt like a mama when I learned to identify and pick up on his most subtle signals. With the babe in the sling, I could see his tiny little mouth starting to open and shut like a little bird. Before he even fussed, I could tell he was hungry. I was his mama, I knew.

I felt like a mama when I could feel him shift through cycles of sleep. When his eyelids would flutter, or his body twitch, I knew that if I walked or rocked a bit, he would go back into a deep slumber. 

I felt like a mama when I would slip him into the sling, during a particularly challenging part of our day, and he would melt into my body and relax. While I couldn't erase the troubles of the day or take away the gas pains in his tummy, I learned that being close to me was enough to bring him comfort. 

While babywearing couldn't erase the pain of the start we had, it helped us heal. It helped me connect with my little one, and it helped him connect with me. Being close allowed us to get to know and trust one another.

That first time I put him in the sling, I had no idea what a powerful act it was. After an unexpected and rocky start, that sling helped me to become the mama that I wanted to be. The mama I dreamed about. The mama that my little one deserves.

 

Babywearing Celebration Day 1: Your Cheek on my Heart.

My second daughter slept on my chest from the moment she was born.  She screamed all the way home, in the car, from the hospital because she wanted to be near me.  For months, she spent every nap and every night with her cheek on my chest.
 
When I look back I can see clearly why she fussed in slings, why I felt so uncomfortable too.  I had bought a Moby wrap before she was born but had been too intimidated to try it out.  Finally, I took her and the wrap to the shop.  When the woman working there finished adjusting the baby and the wrap, all the tension left my body and everything felt so perfectly right.  I opened up my shirt, turned her little head to the side and lay her cheek on my bare chest.
 
When my baby, was six weeks old our family moved to Ukraine.  I felt like the only person in the country using a wrap -- or carrying my baby.  I was stared at.  But the stares and the comments never made me feel uncomfortable.  There was nothing better than having this baby next to my heart.
 
I walked my older daughter to school every morning.  There were 180 stairs between our apartment and the school.  With my little child on my chest, I quickly lost all the baby weight -- and more.
 
Even the French women at our school made comments -- perhaps even more than the locals.  Most believed that my baby would never walk -- nor be a social, autonomous being.
 
How marveled when that spring, following a long winter, I let my baby down and she walked all over the schoolyard.  Until then , they had only glimpsed her face and legs.  But when she emerged, the community was astonished and full of love for this little being who had spent the previous twelve months in a warm cocoon listening to her mama's heartbeat and blocking out the sounds of distrust. I doubt any of them decided to wear their future babies, but I am sure many still tell the tale of the cocoon baby.
 
My daughter continued to sleep "on me" until recently.  Even after my mastectomy, nearly two years ago, I managed to find ways for her to be on my chest.  Now, at four and a half, she is too heavy to lay there.  It was a bittersweet night when I knew she would never say, "I want on you," again.  But she still opens up my shirt and lays her cheek on my bare heart.
 
MamaShift, Vilnius, Lithuania

 

Welcome to the LuSa Organics Babywearing Celebration! The response to this joyful week has been astounding. I am so grateful for all who submitted or donated their writing, photos, baby carriers, materials, information, and support. Thanks to all who's eyes are here this day!

I am of the mind that wearing your child is nothing short of magical. Babywearing promotes bonding. Facilitates multitasking. Soothes fussy babies. Eases the life of multi-child parents. Connects your child with their world. Promotes healthy communication. Is simple (after you learn a few basic steps). Is affordable. Is low-impact. Is good for your body. Is phenomenal for your baby. And it is as old as humanity.

And babywearing has been getting a bad wrap lately (pun intended). The CPSC recently released a statement discouraging sling use for children under four months of age after several infants died in a poorly made, poorly designed carrier.

The age-old practice of wearing babies with a proven track record of safety and innumerable benefits has been underminded a bit by a single, cheap carrier. I mourn for the families effected, and also worry about new parents who are now confused about the safety of babywearing. This week we intend to clear that confusion and inspire you to pull out that carrier you've been nervous to use (or perhaps buy or make a new one). And we'll be showing off some beautiful babes while we're at it. 

Is Babywearing Safe?

Yes. If you choose a good carrier and learn to use it properly. It's easier than installing your car seat properly, I promise you that. And I'd bet money that your newborn will take the carrier option over the car seat if given the choice every time. 

For those of you with reservations on babywearing's inherent safety, Mothering Magazine is a perennial resource on all things mama, baby, and child. (If you don't have a subscription yet get on it! I'll be here when you get back. I mean it. Go. This magazine changed my life.) Mothering Magazine responded eloquently to the CPSC, and I will refer you to their response which includes six bullet points for fool-proof safe babywearing. Throughout the week's posts we'll address getting your child accustom to your carrier, safe wearing tips, making your own wrap or sling, and we'll share some amazing online resources for babywearing.

The Giveaways

Today we are hosting three giveaways. One lucky winner will receive a Moby Wrap. This was my favorite everyday carrier for the first six months of Lupine's in-arms-life and along with Booty Balm is a favorite gift for new families. I LOVED my Moby. Love, love, love.

Another winner will receive the babywearing DVD Tummy2Tummy. This marvelous DVD teaches proper use of four different carrier styles (ring slings, pouches, asian carriers, and simple fabric carriers). I used this DVD to perfect use of my sling, my mai tai, and my Moby. It was indispensable.

A third winner will receive a digital copy of Mothering Magazine's Babywearing 101. This, too, is a fantastic, well written resource for new parents and experienced babywearers alike. We read it, used it, and shared it many times.

To be entered in the drawing please leave a comment below. I'd love to hear your thoughts on babywearing, something that inspired you to wear your baby, or a hope you hold in your heart. (One comment per person please.) Feel free to ask questions. I'll respond to just as many as I can.

Comments are closed. I'll announce winners later this week!

To let more families know about this week's events, I encourage you to re-blog, post to your Facebook page, and share on Twitter. Thanks for spreading the word! I will close comments on Saturday, April 17 and announce all winners the following week.

 

Moby Wrap

The Moby Wrap fits into a category of carrier I'll refer to as stretchy wraps. Made of jersey (heavy tee-shirt type fabric), they have a gentle stretch and give, making it easy to get a little one in and out of the wrap and making them forgiving and comfortable for the adult. I've worn Lupine in some amazing holds in a stretchy wrap - both front and back, facing in and (at home) facing out. Most of the time she was simply asleep on my breast, nuzzled in against my heart.

My Moby was my uniform for six months and I can't imagine that time without it. I've since passed it along to friends, who enjoyed it and passed it onto friends, who again used and passed along the wrap to another family. I occasionally have the pleasure of seeing other cute babes snuggled into our carrier and recall Lupine and I spent our loving days together, heart to heart when she was small. Four babies and counting? Not bad for a $35.00 investment.

I interviewed the folks at Moby Wrap about their carrier, benefits of babywearing, and tips for newbies.

Clean: What makes your carrier one of the best?

Moby: A Moby Wrap is a long piece of ultra soft, breathable cotton that is wrapped around the wearer to create a safe, custom-fitted and versatile baby carrier. Wrapping around both shoulders and the entire back, the Moby Wrap evenly distributes baby's weight making it comfortalbe to carry baby for long periods of time. All Moby Wraps are machine washable and provide one-size versatility. There are no buckles, snaps, or other fasteners, making a Moby Wrap simple and convenient. 

Clean: Why do you believe caregivers should wear their babies?

Moby: Babywearing helps a baby develop a strong and secure attachment to parents. It meets baby's security needs: baby can feel, smell, hear, and see their parent. Babywearing communicates to children that they are loved, safe, secure, and cared for. It is a naturally soothing baby tranquilizer which helps fussy and tired infants fall asleep. It lowers the levels of stress in the infant and parent. It enables parents to accomplish their day to day activities while maintaining close physical contact with their babies.

Clean: Any tips for beginners?

Moby: The best time to start putting your baby in a carrier is when he is happy, fed, and rested. Use gentle movements to soothe baby. It is best to walk or slowly sway than to remain still. Always use your senses to be aware of baby. Look, listen, and feel baby.   

Moby is offering 15% off your entire purchase at www.mobywrap.com. Use coupon code cleanmoby before April 25, 2010.

Your Stories, Your Poems.

Thanks to each and everyone of you who opened your hearts and shared your stories, your thoughts, and your images. We were all so touched. I put four friends to work reading your contributions (thanks ladies!) and I dare say we all cried. Frequently. If anyone has a creative way for us to share every entry let me know. (I am wanting the literary equivalent of Flickr.).

They were so lovely that it was nearly impossible to choose just five. In fact, I didn't. Today I selected two. And we'll have a bonus Haiku day (so feel free to submit to your heart's content. Please title your email "Haiku" to simplify my sifting process.)

Today we begin and end with a reader submission. I can relate to Meg and the feeling of expectations and life turned upside down with a first child.

Love to all.

~ Rachel

 

 

 

Baby Carrying, by Meg Grant

I wish I could say baby wearing came to me from a place of love and warmth, rather than its true source…desperation.  My first baby, Ava, took all of what I expected life with an infant to be and turned it upside down. She rarely slept, ceased to stop crying, and never simply relaxed. After many days of insanity, I finally asked my pediatrician what to do and his callous response was, “well, you need to remember who the parent is, you’re letting this baby dictate your life.”

Crestfallen, downhearted, and angry barely describes how I felt leaving that office. I could not believe he actually said what he said and could not understand how, as a new mother, my baby should not dictate my life. She was two weeks old, for goodness sake. I walked home in tears, along with Ava who was supremely quiet. The moment I stopped walking, she would scream.  This was probably the closest I’ve ever come to an epiphany, with the realization that movement was the only way to soothe her.  I raced home and  opened the carrier I purchased, never really sure I would use it. I strapped it on myself and put a very calm Ava in, holding my breath. Not a peep, not a scream, just a quiet, content baby.   For the rest of that day, I found myself overwhelmed by the freedom the carrier provided while simultaneously allowing me to be close to this little creature.  It was truly the first time I relaxed as a new mother. I accepted that this beautiful baby was forever going to dictate my life, a fate that I was more than happy to accept.

It is hard to believe, but that little baby is turning six soon and I have two other little babies that I have been lucky enough to carry.  With my second baby, Lillian, carrying her was a necessity; Ava was only nineteen months when she was born and I quickly learned a toddler waits for nothing. Lily lived in the carrier a good portion of the day and in the quiet moments of bedlam, the love and warmth I felt from her soft breath and quiet coos on my chest got me through the day.

Today I sit here writing this while my nine week old son, Oliver, sleeps soundly. I have since updated my baby carrier to the Moby Wrap, which is my new accessory I wear with pride. Although the carrier has changed, my feelings of carrying these precious babies has remained the same. I am a better mother because my hands are free, my heart is warm, and my baby is happy when I have them close to my heart.